The epidemic of unmarried, or formerly married, women in this country is truly shocking. Scarcely any segment of the population, even in conservative churches, has escaped this phenomenon. Some pastors like Doug Wilson have blamed men for the societal shift from married, stable families to unwed motherhood. The solution, according to him and others that preceded him such as Bill McCartney of Promise Keepers fame, is for men to become more assertive and masculine, and simultaneously hold back on making demands of what women ought to do. I know, because I was there at a Promise Keepers rally nearly 20 years ago when I and tens of thousands of other men like me resolved to lead our families and communities — but to not demand that our families and communities follow us.
Much of modern leadership literature is based around this very premise: leaders are followed, not obeyed. Leaders inspire, they don’t command. Leaders set an example, they don’t uphold standards and apply punishments for failure to conform to said standards. An entire niche of every Christian bookstore is dedicated to this philosophy of “do-as-I-do-but-I-won’t-make-
Last time I checked, the four Gospels in the New Testament recorded lots of instances where Jesus used words, laid down commands, and even promised eternal hellfire, for His audiences. Sure, as John Calvin noted, a good preacher has to use one voice for the sheep and another voice for the wolves, but nonetheless a good preacher uses words. He uses commands. He not only sets an example, but He proactively communicates standards for others to uphold, and then issues penalties or rewards based on their conformity to those standards. This is what God did in the Old and New Testaments. This is what Jesus did in the Gospels. This is what God still does today.
If there’s any better leader, minister, or example of mercy and patience than God, I don’t know who it is. Therefore, if it’s good enough for God, why isn’t it good enough for us men made in His image and empowered with His delegated authority?
Which brings us back to the THOT problem, and the failure of the modern/postmodern Church to stem the tide of degeneracy in the West. Pastors like Doug Wilson or Bill McCartney have not effectively equipped either their men or their women with the knowledge or skills necessary to avoid the problems we see running rampant through our population. Our women have gotten even more empowered than Eve was when she took and ate of the tree in the garden, and our men have gotten even more cowardly than Adam was when he watched her do it — and then followed suit.
The men of today literally believe in “grrrrl power” in the same incredible, unfathomable way that they believe in Afrocentric history. We aren’t even on the same map as our great-grandfathers, who certainly would have reacted differently to John Wayne in McClintock than we do today. We must be willing to lead our women with true authority; we must purge the sheepishness of modern cuckservative men, for we can surely do better than losing the peace of the garden for fear of a scolded Eve’s wrath.